SO I TRY TO BE ASERTIF

Once I read in the newspapers about the outpouring of the heart of two women, aged almost 30 years, di rubrik psychology. Both are subjected to medical education specialist. Each has a lover, the boyfriend of one of seven years younger, and one was 8 years old. 

Both parents want their marriage is not more than 30 years. So the two women tell their parents hope to their respective boyfriends. boyfriend of a woman, who was younger, claimed to be ready to marry and support their family life later. While the woman's boyfriend B, the older one, actually there is no signs of wanting to marry by reason of wanting to work first.

Both women have in common, although they want to meet the expectations of their parents to marry,  but in heart their feel aren't really equally marry, unfortunately they are also unable to draw through their heart and feeling to their parents. both froze to obey and please their parents.

And the Council of the psychologist told the woman trying to learn to be assertive, which is an attitude that ultimately, the goal is to "win - win solution"  with  condition  "I'm fine, you are fine too".  To behave in this, we will have the ability to speak to express a desire or feeling without making others were mangled. Convey the true feelings of her own. The impact is for the sake of yourself. get what you want with all due respect the feelings of others. Avoid being on the defensive (insisting on his own opinion), or even to blame someone else. 

Reading this, I was speechless in my heart, to admit that I am more often on the defensive in life,

or even be submissive (avoiding the conflict) and the impact is not good for my life. Be strong, it is not easy, that's what I feel, you need to do exercise. And the exercise takes time and patience. But trust me, it is worth it, feel free and different,say something To feel our truth and opinion than just Following Other want